holy shit i was just thinking of how you’re apparently “”“”supposed to”“”” spend two months’ salary on an engagement/wedding ring
and it just now hit me how much money that is!!!
in ontario if you’re working full time at minimum wage that’s over three thousand dollars???????????????????
HOLY FUCK
WEDDING TRADITIONS ARE REALLY WEIRD
Yes, aren’t they? I think this, along with the ~*fact*~ that engagement/wedding rings are “supposed” to be diamond, was part of an advertising campaign by De Beers. Who are such an ethical company, of course lolsob D:
Weddings are something of a mystery to me. I am going to be one of the bridesmaids at my best friend’s wedding, and I can easily understand that this is a big and happy event in her life and she wants it to look nice and run smoothly. But that’s because she is my best friend and I know her, and I can pair this up with the general knowledge of weddings I have collected.
It’s just… well, I think the idea of emotionally cleaving yourself to at least one other person you are really, really attached to is quite lovely. Having a ritual and a fixed day on which to celebrate this union and to make a nice event of it is nice. I think everyone should have that if they want. But I don’t view this as one and the same thing as marriage-as-legal contract, which I also think everyone should have if they want.
The whole general OMG BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE and YOU HAVE TO BE BRIDEZILLA AND GET MARRIED TO YOUR MISTER DARCY and IF YOU DON’T FEEL THIS WAY YOU ARE NOT ONLY LYING YOU ARE A BITTER FEMINIST thing is bound up in patriarchy and eurocentrism and Christian-centricism and erm, just a lot of yuck tbh.
Also observe the odd myths on this page:
On the way to the church:
It is fortunate for a bride to meet a lamb, a dove, a spider, or a black cat on her way to church: but a pig or funeral are bad omens, and country brides fear the crowing of a cock after dawn of the wedding day. It is also fortunate that if on the journey to the church the bride sees a policeman, clergyman, doctor or a blind man. The groom should give a coin to the first person he sees on his journey to the church for good luck.THE MORE YOU KNOW.
It is weird to think that Jamie and I could get married. He only really talks about marriage as a practical thing that you do once you’ve reached a certain point, like taking out the rubbish. I think his indifferently straightforward attitude towards marriage is quite amusing, so I jokingly talk about marrying him in a flippant manner, casually making a big deal out of it. 8D
Wait … minimum wage in Ontario is 3 grand? HOLY SHIT!
